i am looking for people to submit their recovery story (like the one i just posted). I want to create a page so others can read them and feel less alone. I will not post these on the blog but instead create a new page for everyones stories. There will be trigger warnings on these
Some rules for submitting: -do not mention the number of your weight -do not to mention specific “techniques” (ex. i’ve heard of some recipes that people have used to help them purge. do not mention those) -wrap it up positively at the end -dont mention numberscalories/grams of fat/carbs etc. -do not mention brand names of laxatives/diuretics
This isn't a question, but I found this and was slightly horrified. It could be triggering, though, so I didn't want to submit it.
Of course the writers of the article are not agreeing with the study...but that fact that the study exists horrifies me.
i like this article becuase it shows how people dont take eating disorders serisouly, even researchers. however at the same time it upsets me too. people have such a distorted perception of eating disorders and what they really are about.
check it out if you want (its under “my story”) however i have to warn that it may be triggering (and its long).
****Also, i am looking for others to submit their recovery story. I want to create a page so others can read them and feel less alone. If you are interested in submitting your story, please message me. I would like to link your blog to the story, so let me know if that’s okay. If you would like to remain anonymous, that’s fine too! you can either submit anonymously, or you can write a separate note stating that you would not like your name to be used.
Some rules for sumbtting your stories: -do not mention the number of your weight -wrap it up positively at the end
i found this on my dashboard (http://whoamianyway-.tumblr.com/) and it think its important to recovery to recognize what disordered behaviors you still engage in. here’s a list of some behaviors that are conisdered “disordered” that can seriously hold back your recovery. im posting this as a tool so others can be more self aware of their behaviors. i hope this can helpHow many ED behaviors do you still hold on to? (from findinghappinessandhealth)
1. Eating the same meals daily, or regularly, without variation.
2. Using a very small or very large amount of condiments (e.g. salad dressing, ketchup, hot sauce, butter).
3. Exercising more on days when you have had or expect to have a larger meal, dessert, etc.
4. Avoiding certain social functions that involve food.
5. Packing your own food when attending events (with the exception of having a food allergy, etc.)
6. Maintaining a vegetarian, vegan, or other diet that restricts certain types of food.
7. Becoming upset if you are unable to work out on occasion.
8. Wanting to be the last to finish your meal.
9. Eating very quickly or very slowly.
10. Frequently choosing to eat alone.
11. Eating while engaged in television, work, or other distractions.
12. Only eating at certain times or after a certain number of hours.
13. Using food as a reward, such as waiting to eat until you finish a task despite being hungry.
14. Engaging in other restrictive behaviors, such as not allowing yourself to buy something that you need and want (and can afford).
15. Lying to other people in any capacity about your eating or exercise.
16. Pushing yourself during exercise in a mean and threatening way – or hiring someone to do it for you.
17. Putting off eating in order to “get things done.”
18. Scheduling events around food and using it as justification for eating more.
19. Only eating at certain restaurants.
20. Weighing yourself regularly.
21. Not wearing certain clothing items that you like out of fear.
22. Buying low-fat, low-calorie, low-carb or only “health” products.
23. Using artificial sweetener.
24. Holding on to your “skinny jeans.”
25. Having rules or patterns around eating meals.
26. Not keeping certain foods in your home that others may enjoy.
27. Destroying food in any way.
28. Chewing gum or eating mints frequently to stave off hunger.
29. Engaging in fat-talk.
30. Loading up your schedule to avoid free time.
31. Getting in arguments over food with friends or family.
32. Turning down birthday cake (when you want it!).
33. Commenting on other people’s eating habits.
34. Frequently seeking approval from others.
35. Reading blogs that don’t promote a healthy balance.
Wear clothes you feel comfortable in. Don’t wear clothes that feel too tight or restrict movement. Don’t hold off on buying clothes you like — do it now! Dress to express yourself, not to impress others. You should feel good in what you wear.
Cut labels out of your clothes. The size on the tags shouldn’t dictate your mood for the day!
Stay away from the scale — as a matter of fact, get rid of it! If your weight needs to be monitored, leave that up to the doctors. How much you weigh should never affect your self-esteem or your sense of who you are.
Before you look in the mirror, think optimistically. When you start your day, decide how you are feeling before going to the mirror. No one looks good with bed-head, and our moods aren’t determined by the reflection we see. Start your day with self-affirmations, relax in a hot shower, think of all the positive ways you will cope with any stresses of the day ahead, and think of the things you have to be thankful for in your life… only then are you more prepared to face yourself with pride.
Talk to yourself at the mirror. Focus on what you like and remind yourself that it’s okay to like and appreciate what you see, no matter what size you are.
Stay away from fashion magazines. Let’s fact it, most fashion and women’s magazines focus on an ideal of beauty that is just not something anyone in real-life can be. Most models make up less than one percent of the human population when it comes to their size! In addition, each one has a staff of people to make them transform into what the final photo looks like — designers, make-up artists, camera people and lighting specialists, and photo retouchers (think “airbrush”). Unless you can look through these magazines knowing they are purely fantasy, it’s just better to stay away from them. Invest in magazines that contribute to who you are — News magazine, magazines that relate to positive hobbies and interests (art, music, sports, traveling, home decorating, gardening, etc.) — they make a magazine for just about everything these days… I even recently saw one just for beany-baby collecting!
Make a “why I like myself” list. Think of all the things about YOU that you like — are you honest? Creative? Intelligent? Compassionate? Loyal? Kind? Think of all the reason you deserve to love yourself and write them down. Hang the list up next to the mirror as a reminder that these things are what make you truly beautiful.
Take the time to do nice things for your body. One a month get a massage, a manicure, or a facial. Pamper yourself to long hot baths by candlelight. Get together with a friend and give each other pedicures. Buy lotions that feel and smell good and treat yourself to some perfume or body mist. Take naps when you need to, just because you can!
Take risks to challenge yourself. Think of things you normally wouldn’t do and try them (you’ll find out that the world won’t cave in) — leave the house without makeup, get a wild new haircut (how many years have you had that same hairdo???), spend all day in your pajamas or go out to run an errand in them. The point is, your makeup, hair and clothes do not make you who you are! Prove it!
Go places you’d never go alone. Ever go to a movie by yourself? Or enjoy a cup of coffee at the local cafe and read the paper? How about a fancy restaurant, dinner for one? These are treasured experiences, time spent with yourself, and that is the first person you need to get to know and love spending time with. Take the risk and try it!
Stay alert to fighting negative self-talk. When that little voice of doom pops up in your mind trying to remind you how horrible you think you are, have a strategy for turning those negatives to positives. No one is perfect! When you find yourself being self critical immediately stop and pay yourself a compliment!
Stay active. Movement therapy is something that helps improve everyone’s sense of being. Take up Yoga or Tai’ Chi. Join a Karate class. Take a thirty-minute walk three days a week. Get outside and play volleyball with the kids or go rollerskating in the park with your friends. Take a leisurely bike ride at sunrise. Make angels in the snow and sandcastles at the beach. Be active and enjoy life!
Ask for a hug when you need it. Sometimes there is no better therapy then a hug and a kind word from someone that cares about you, but our loved-ones aren’t mind readers! Tell them when you’re having a bad day and ask for a hug, a shoulder to lean on, or an ear to listen.
Protect the child in you. Look at children around you now — would you criticize them for being themselves? Are you focused on the weight of a five-year-old while you watch them play with friends? Wouldn’t you protect a child being picked on? Well you don’t deserve to be picked on either, and you don’t deserve to be picked on by yourself!
Remind yourself that the people who truly love you, love you for YOU, not for what you look like.
Remind yourself that looking healthy issomething positive. It means that you are well rested, eating right and nurturing your soul. It means no more than that, and no less than that.
Hey! I love this blog, but I wanted to put myself out there. I'd love to help run the blog, but as an alternative, I'm suggesting myself in a feat of shameless self-promotion. I blog about general mental health and self-esteem, but my especially focus is on EDs and related syndromes. http://clearlyconfusedchild.tumblr.com/
ill deffinatly help promote you :) i also followed you on my personal tumblr and as of now i think i have enough people to run this blog, but if i ever need more ill let you know!
i know you just posted something like this, and i hope i'm not totally spamming you guys, but one thing that really helps me when i start to think about something idon't like about my body, is i level it out with one thing i LOVE about myself. the things i loved used to be hard to find, but they get easier and easier to remember.
dont worry about spamming! and thats a great idea! i hope everyone i can try to do this
i love what you're doing here and i'm really glad there are people who are encouraging recovery. great job. if there's anything i can do to help promote your blog or anything please let me know. my heart goes out to the people who run, and who follow this blog. <3 we can do this.
thank you so much! it really means alot to me when i hear that this blog is helping people. i’ll let you know if theres anything i can think of :)
Check out these suggestions for stopping fat talk from PsychCentral:
Become aware of your fat talk. Sometimes, we don’t even realize how often we talk negatively about our bodies to others.
Think about other things you can talk about. There are so many other topics you can talk about with your friends – fulfilling topics that get at the important stuff.
How does fat talk make you feel? Consider how talking negatively about yourself impacts you. Again, remember that words have a power over us, whether you notice this or not.
What’s behind your fat talk? A negative body image may reveal deeper wounds, so fat talk may be your clue to start working on these deeper issues.
Think about the triggers. What precipitates the fat talk? Is it a friend’s comments about herself? Your own negative beliefs? Looking at a woman’s magazine? Criticism from a family member? Once you can identify the triggers, you can work through them.
Make it a positive game. If you make a negative comment about your body or your friends do about theirs, decide that everyone will list off three attributes they love about themselves right on the spot. This automatically turns the conversation into something positive.
Stop. While your fat talk might decrease tremendously, a comment might slip out from time to time. That’s OK. Just because you make a comment doesn’t mean that you can’t stop the conversation before it truly starts. So try to stop it.
Discuss fat talk with friends. Ask your friends why they fat talk. How does it make them feel? Why do they feel the need to engage in it? What do they really mean? What would they rather talk about that’s meaningful and healthy? Have an honest conversation about where their fat talk comes from and how all of you can stop it.
Spread the word, especially to kids, teens and college students. If you have a younger sister, a child of your own, a niece or nephew, spread the positivity to them and really wherever you can. Try not to engage in fat talk in front of them, and if you do, explain the negative implications.
Cultivate a healthy body image. Fat talk is often an extension of a negative body image.
you should read this link, I was going to say something about that picture but this puts it in much better words: http://telescopics.tumblr.com/post/4681334775/trigger-warning-for-thinspiration-and-ed-shaming
i honestly dont know how to respond to this, i made that really poorly done picture as a way to reverse thinspo, because i know alot of people look at that and it feeds into their eating disorder obviously you cant just give up your eating disorder, its not magic. no one made the choice to have their eating disorder, how ever, you do have the choice to recover. unfortunately, not many people will get better on their own. and even if you go into treatment centers and haven’tdecided that you fully want to get better, you probably wont. alot of the other pictures i’ve made (and by made i mean added text over) were successful, like the “be strong and recover” or the “keep calm and keep eating”.
i really dont have anything else to say i mean was it really that offensive ?
Any tips for bulimia? I've had so many recovery options pulled from me because of insurance and everytime i try to eat healthy, binge/purge always happens by dinner. HELP! I don't know what to do!
i think the best thing to do is to distract yourself from engaging in behaviors. of course, there is no “tip” that can effectively stop bulimia, but i’ve personally found that going for a walk or a drive after eating is helpful in stopping me from purging. also, set up your portions before you eat and then put the food away. i think people are more likely to binge when the food is available. if you feel like binging, remove yourself from that situation and also try to identify your feelings and whats making you want to binge. understanding your triggers is the best way to stop them.
some ideas of distractions can be: taking a nap going for a walk/drive watching a movie hanging out with other people.
just keep yourself as busy as you can
also, i apologize that it took me so long to respond, i’ve been so busy lately that i havent had much time for tumblr.
Okay, here's a quote: "Being strong isn't being able to starve yourself for three weeks. Being strong is being able to get out of your eating disorder and becoming healthy, even when the voice in your head won't let you. Ignoring this voice, ana or mia or both, IS being the strongest, so don't ever give up."
i love this and am adding it to our quote section!
One: i am going to answer everyone’s message later tonight. i am currently babysitting now
two: the “give up your eating disorder” picture wasn’t meant to belittle the idea that recovery is easy, its obviously not. it takes years and years to recover. iv’e personally been in and out of different treatment centers for 3 years. however, it was meant to reverse the original idea of the picture, which was to give up food to get skinny. when i added “give up your eating disorder, its for the best” it was suppose to mean that choosing to recover is a better option than choosing not to eat.
I really hate my size. I'm not obese...But I think that I am. I think that I'm ungodly fat and it...it is actually a really big...a huge issue between me and my friends and me and my boyfriend. We've gotten into fights about it. I used to be bulimic. It was two years, off and on and before that I had a bout of anorexia. I was clean from both habits for about a year...Until recently. It's this terrible cycle that always comes up and it always starts with anorexia. I'm not sure how to cope. Or even if I want to. I can't tell my best friend cause she'd murder me and my boyfriend and a few of my teachers mark how little I eat (one yogurt and maybe three water bottles all day. Maybe a small dinner. If anything.) But...I can't help it. And it doesn't stop. It's been this way since I was about eight. Gorge-Anorexia-Bulimia-Gorge etc. I'm eighteen.
I didn't know who else to turn to.
Felt like you were an appropriate fit.
Thanks for listening to my blather.
i think its very important that you talk to a professional about this and get support. it seems like your friends and boyfriend arent very supportive, which is can pose problems. i would say try to find an adult you can talk to, one that will take you seriously, as in a school social worker or even find your own therapist. You’re beautiful, and even though i dont know you personally i can tell, your icon picture is stunning. I can’t tell you what to do, but you really should try eating more. A nutritionist would be great to tell you how much you need to eat for your body type. It really does seem like you need professional help, so, strongly urging you to seek out treatment. As scary as it is, you have to remeber that things can only get better, and seking otu help will lead to a better and happier life.
Could you please add youareunique.tumblr.com to the other blogs section maybe or check it out? It is a blog to try promote that everyone is loved and beautiful no matter what they look like! We are trying to show that everyone is unique and different and that it is this that makes them beautiful <3 xx