And weight. I’ve had enough of them in the past couple of years. Technically calories don’t even exist. You can’t see them. You can’t touch them. They are a unit of energy. Do I want to base my worth on something like this?? Hell no.
Why do we even weigh our bodies? Who was that idiot who decided that from now on people should weigh themselves??? What does weight tell about our bodies? Our health? Our worth? NOTHING.
Of course they do. They have to or they would die, very quickly. It doesn’t matter if you saw your friend eating a chocolate bar two weeks ago, or they eat something at lunch every day: they can still have a serious problem. They might calorie count, purge, only eat ‘safe’…
You are a soul. You are a mind. You are not fat. You may have fat*. You also have fingernails, but you aren’t fingernails, are you? You have hair, but you aren’t hair, are you? You may have fat*, but you are not fat. You are beautiful.
* (every living human has fat of some sort, there is no way around it and nothing wrong with that)
I have a few problems with this post, so I’ve modified it slightly. I would also like to add that “beautiful” and “fat” are NOT mutually exclusive! every body is beautiful, whether fat, skinny, short, tall, black, white, brown, or purple!
Hello guys, I just want to say y'all are really awesome and have helped me a lot :) I've been struggling with bulimia for over three years, but it comes and goes. I hadn't purged in over a year but tonight some friends and I went out for frozen yogurt and after I finished mine I just felt disgusting. And when I got home, well... you get it. I don't know how to deal with this relapse, any advice you have about recovering from a relapse would be much appreciated. I hate myself for it. ):
Hey lady! First, remember this: 1 time is only a slip. A short period of time is a lapse. A relapse is when you are fully back in the disorder. Sounds like you may have had a slip or lapse but do not worry, remember: You Can Start Over At Any Time. This means even after you’ve used the behavior. Start over right then. Go right back to eating your regular meals and snacks. Pull out some skills to cope with the urges: distract yourself [tv? movie? video game? Making bracelets? Writing? Reading? Doing something creative?], take a nap, make a list in your head [or on paper] about what you’re feeling and then think ‘Will purging really make this feeling go away?’, sit with the feeling, ask for support from a friend or family member. Remind yourself of your positive attributes!
I highly recommend the book 'Regaining Your Self' by Ira M Sacker. It talks about the differences betwen slips/lapses/relapses and how to deal with them. It was one of the most helpful books I’ve read in relation to recovery.
I'm really afraid telling my mom about my ED will change and/or ruin our relationship forever. we're really close, which is making it even harder for me to tell her. any advice for this? :'/
when you tell your mom, she will be upset, there’s no way around it. but she won’t be upset with you, she will be upset that her daughter/son is in pain because she loves you. it may change your relationship a little, and she may even seem a little angry at first, but that will pass. if you’re close with your mom, use her as a resource in your recovery, as someone you can talk to.
I have a friend, he had a eating disorder once anorexic. Recently he said he told me he felt fat and that he wanted to lose a couple of pounds however im worried that his got a eating disorder again because I think his underweight already. He says his fine and that its just a couple of pounds but I'm worried it will be come more then that. He won't speak to a doctor and he wants to keep it from his family which worries me even more. He says they will tell him to eat more! any advice??
try talking to him about your concerns, about how “i’m going to lost X pounds” turns into X+Y pounds, etc. Dieting can be a slippery slope. if you see he’s fully relapsing, it may be best to try and talk to his family or something, even though it’s hard.
I've been recovering from ednos for almost a year now and it suddenly seems harder than ever before. I gained a lot of weight at the beginning after I started to take medication for my depression. I was really happy for a while and doing well with my body, but a month ago I came down with the stomach flu and the weight loss became so triggering. I've started restricting again and I don't know what to do. My therapist is gone and everyone thinks i'm "cured", but I couldn't be any further from it.
i’d recommend going back to therapy. a lot of people stop therapy fresh out of treatment when they still need the continual support. i’m still in therapy, and i’ve been in recovery for a while now. also, perhaps try educating those who think you’re “cured” about how the eating disorder is not a physical state like many think, it is a mental state.
you are uniquely you, and that is amazing and beautiful. always remember that
Someone made fun of the fact that I have been in the hospital many times for my eating disorder and a suicide attempt. I'm not at all ashamed of my past but it bothers me that there are people out there actually like this because I would never want any other person to feel the way I feel now. I just am wondering what I can do to get this all out of my head?
people are going to stay stupid things, but keep in mind that they are just ignorant and not worth wasting time thinking about. the week i got back from my first treatment stay, i was sitting with friends at a lunch table when one girl said (knowing where i’d been) “i’m thinking about going anorexic, it’s not that hard, you just don’t eat.” it really pissed me off at first, but i was able to remind myself she’s just an IDIOT and not worth my time. hope that helps a little
I'm a new advice blog, and I'm looking for help getting my name out there! I want to reach as many people as possible! It would mean soooo much to me if you could tell your followers about me or just publish this ask so they'll know I exist! Thanks so much! :)
I’m Alex! I am joining Nicole and Jeyn as an administrator to this blog. Here is a draft of my story.
I’m 26 years-old—making me the oldest admin—and can say I’ve been in solid recovery for nearly 4 full months. I know that doesn’t sound very long but it’s the longest I’ve maintained recovery while not being in treatment for the first time since 1998! And…I LOVE IT!!! I have a B.A. in Psych and am working towards a Masters in Social Work. I live in Massachusetts. I have been in 3 different treatment centers: Montecatini [CA], Laurel Hill Inn [MA], Cambridge Eating Disorder Center.
I can’t post your question because of numbers and such, and while I’m not a doctor, it very much sounds to me like you have an eating disorder. And I know it feels like “i’ll be happy if I just lose X pounds” but that’s not how happiness is achieved, and in the eating disordered mindset, X pounds turns to X+Y pounds to X+Y+Z pounds. I strongly suggest talking to an adult about getting help, either a parent or a school counselor, and try and find a therapist and nutritionist.
I am a constituent from your district, and I want to bring your attention to the newly formed National Eating Disorders Awareness Caucus, chaired by Nan Hayworth (R-NY-19) and co-chaired by Nita Lowey (D-NY-18). The Caucus will emphasize coordination with private-sector organizations and initiatives to fight eating disorders. I am writing to ask you to join this important, and potentially life saving, Caucus.
Nearly 24 million Americans suffer from eating disorders, including anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa, and binge eating disorder. Four out of 10 Americans either suffered or have known someone who has suffered from an eating disorder. Eating disorders impact every organ system in the body, leading to chronic health complications, and even death. For females between 15- and 24-years-old-old who suffer from anorexia, the mortality rate associated with the illness is 12 times higher than the death rate of all other causes of death. While there is hope and recovery, greater awareness is needed to ensure early intervention and appropriate treatment delivery.
“Imagine 2 cups of water, both the same size and the same shape. Fill one of them up with water. Yes, the one with water will weigh more, but they both look the SAME on the outside”—(via eatingdisorderrecovery)
I've been struggling with bulimia for a few years and really want to recover, but it feels impossible to break the binge/purge cycle. Do you have any quick advice on how to stop? Also, my front teeth are very sensitive because of all the stomach acid, do you know of anything that might help? (I'm already using toothpaste and mouthwash for sensitive teeth)
I have the same problem with my teeth. My dentists (who do not know about my bulimia) recommend special tooth paste and mouthwash. Tooth enamel erosion is permanent (although I believe there is a surgery to correct part of it). I don’t really know any other ways. The best thing to do is to talk to your dentist and ask for recommendations if you haven’t already. To break the binge purge cycle, the best thing to do is to identify what triggers the binging. Once you have recognized those triggers, than learn ways to distract yourself. Talking a walk or a nap, calling a friend or going for a drive are ways that I usually like to distract myself
do you still get triggered? food, others weight, ect? (if not, when did they stop?)
I personally do not consider myself fully recovered yet, so I still get triggered a lot. My weight will trigger me or hearing about other peoples weight that are near my height will also trigger me. When it comes to hearing about other peoples weight, I just try to relax and remind myself that EVERY body is different, and therefore I can not judge my own self worth off of my own weight or anyone else’s.
I don’t really get triggered anymore. I don’t consider myself fully recovered yet, but I am solidly in recovery and I am getting towards fully recovered. when I do get triggered, it’s more related to emotional triggers that aren’t food related that lead to eating disordered thoughts and behaviors. I’d say I stopped being triggered by food/weight/etc fairly recently, I got out of my last relapse in september/october, so I guess around then. It’s hard, but it will happen.